Tips for Dealing with a Challenging Senior Parent
If you're a caregiver, then you know that dealing with an aging parent can be challenging. They don't necessarily want to hear what we have to say and as they cling to their independence, they may not want to hear options regarding the care they are receiving now or in the future.
It's hard enough for caregivers who live close by and see their parents every day, but it can be even harder for those of us who live far away and only get the chance to speak with them once in a while.
We want to share some tips on how best to deal with this type of situation so that both parties will walk away feeling good about themselves.
Be Patient
First, try to understand that your parents are no longer the same person they were when they used to live on their own. They're beginning a new chapter in life and it's going to start with them needing some assistance from you as the caregiver.
Don't push back too much or get upset because chances are it will just cause unnecessary tension between both parties.
As they are transitioning to this new phase of their life, it will take them some time to adapt. Stick with it, stay patient, and chances are, they will come around eventually.
Be Open-Minded
You might not agree with all of your parent’s wishes, but if we approach these conversations with patience, an open-mind, and compassion, we can come up with solutions that satisfy everyone involved.
It’s okay to set boundaries. Family caregivers may not be able to do everything themselves. And that’s okay! Maybe there is a family member or close friend who you think would be better suited for the job.
Be Honest
If your loved one is telling you that you're not capable of handling their tasks, it’s quite possible that they are right — at least to some extent. This might hurt, but this person knows more about themselves than anyone else. Our advice should never go against their wishes unless it will actually lead to harm (and even then just use caution).
Above all else though, always keep an open mind with them and be honest with yourself (and your loved ones) about what you can or cannot do. If it is not in your ability to help them, then don't force anything. This will only make things worse down the road.
Be Open About Your Feelings
If there are certain topics that we feel uncomfortable discussing with our parents, then chances are we will end up avoiding speaking altogether (or at least until later).
This isn't a good idea though since communication is key during any relationship, even if it's one between an adult child and his/her aging parents.
Aging can be a challenging new phase of life.
There are many ways you can approach a challenging relationship with an aging parent. It's important to be patient and be honest with your loved one. To learn more about our assisted living options, contact us today for more information.